However, IF my kids were to marry, this is what I want.
Girls, I want you to marry a guy who loves you BECAUSE of who you are, not in spite of it. A guy who doesn't see some idealistic potential in you...wanting to mold you into what he thinks of as the ideal Christian woman. I want a husband for you who sees you as the wonderful girl you are, and will accept you now.
I want a guy for you whose behavior you do not always have to explain away to yourself. Beyond giving him the benefit of the doubt, (which is a good thing usually), I want a husband for you who needs no excuses, because he treats you right in the first place.
Most of all, I want to see you be the woman of God who deserves a man like this.
I'd like to see you marry a girl who doesn't try to mold you into the image she sees in her head. A girl who doesn't see you as a project, but as a man of God.
Most of all, I want to see you be the man of God who deserves this kind of girl.
But it gets me a bit steamed when people hold up one template for what they consider 'Godly', and then hold everyone up to that template to see if they match up. If they don't, then they're somehow not 'Godly'.
Unless that template is the Bible, then the person matching them up is in the wrong. They've got an unrealistic, unfair template, that honestly will rob them of the rich diversity that God allows in our lives.
We are uniquely and wonderfully made. Don't look at each other and expect the 'best' to fit into some sort of pre-fab construction model.
And my kids (all of you - you know who you are), don't allow anyone other than God to press you into a mold. God accepts us for who we are now, and then He changes us for the better. But that's GOD's job. His ideal often looks different than ours.
Let God be the One who changes you. He'll do it better anyway.