Think with me here.
Understand that just because someone has a stricter standard it does not mean they're judging you.
We see someone else who has a more restrictive viewpoint, and we automatically see them as judging us. You understand, they want to be accepted by the people they go to church with, by the people they're in contact with every day. You also understand, sometimes they aren't accepted.
But do you see that we can have a stricter standard without judging other people? Too often we think that the other person, the one with a little more open standard, the one who allows themselves more, is the one who cannot be judgmental.
I'm here to tell you, I've experienced different.
Do you see someone with some sort of stricter viewpoint as different? Do you treat them differently than you treat your other friends? Do you hold them at arm's length? Do you consider them to be judgmental even if they have never proven to be? Do you stand back and wait for them to say mean things to you? Do you imagine that they're thinking badly of you, even though they've never treated you different because of your differences?
Do you talk about them behind their back, telling other people that they obviously think they're better than everyone else...simply because they have a stricter standard for themselves?
Having the stricter standard is not in and of itself judgmental.
Consider this - by holding them at arm's length, by assuming things about their thought processes, by talking about them behind their back with other people...you are the one being judgmental regarding standards.
I'm writing this to point out that everyone can be judgmental. Neither one should be treating the other with disdain, or setting them apart as sort of strange, or whispering about them behind their backs. But I think we forget that it does go both ways. So don't forget.