And as church members we forget the sorts of wounds a minister has to sustain. We expect them to be able to handle it themselves. After all, some people would say that being a leader means they don't need anyone else's help anymore.
We all understand the military vet that comes home limping or permanently scarred or gravely wounded. We understand that veteran's need for healing, the time it takes for them to recuperate, and the help they need physically - even though honestly, 'most everyone in the military is healthier and more physically robust than the majority of us who are not in the military. (let's be honest, you know that's true.)
Yet that wounded warrior needs healing time. And we don't call him weak for needing that help, do we?
It's no different with a spiritually wounded warrior...someone who's labored in the trenches for years and now has some substantial hurts. Those wounds largely get ignored though, because we can't see them. They aren't as evident as a missing arm, or a limp. But they're just as impacting on the individual and the people around him.
Too often we push that spiritually wounded warrior away because we're afraid of being infected too. We call him weak because he's reacting badly, or doing something we don't approve of. But we're unable, or unwilling, to look behind that wrong reaction to see the reason for it. If we could and would look beyond, we'd perhaps then be obligated to help the healing process. If we don't look, we can pretend it isn't there. We can pretend it was just that person falling into carnality.
It's hard, I know. It's our instinctive reaction to push someone away when they're overreacting or being emotionally needy. But how would Christ have us react instead? Are we leaving wounded warriors behind? Or are we reaching out and trying to help them heal?
Here's an article on 15 Traits of Wounded Warriors